Friday, May 28, 2010

Did I really just say that?

As the mom of 2 children with type 1, I often has people who ask questions, make observations and occasionally that one jackass steps up with a real humdinger of a comment. I always welcome questions and I am happy to educate anyone that takes the time to strike up a conversation. Most of the time I bite my tongue and give a very heavily medically termed explanation for the jackass - I still feel that part of my journey with T1 is that of educator - it might just help someone else or even one of my girls one day.

My post today is dedicated to those jackasses out there that open their mouths and stay the most ridiculous things, either without regards to the person their saying them to or because they don't care. My disclaimer on the little story I'm about to share is that it had been a rough night blood sugar wise, I had a raging headache and PMS was rearing it's ugly head. SO, I might have been a tad intolerant. The only part about this that I feel bad about is that I was in the nursery at church when this conversation took place, so unfortunately I will be seeing this person again. Yeah buddy.

We go to the later service at church, it starts at 10:30, ends at 11:45 - I step out at 11:30 to go check Little G's sugar. I head to the nursery where she's playing with her friends to do this. Last Sunday I walk in, say hello to the gals that are watching all the littles and say "G, come here please, we need to check sugars" to which this other mom, who had been sitting on the floor whips around and says "for what?". I tell her that Little G has diabetes and we have to check her sugars regularly to which she replies "I would just DIE if one of my kids was diabetic, it's just SO sad". There must have been a delay in my censor turning on because before I even thought about it I said "no, unfortunately it would be your child who would die, because this isn't optional and you have to put your big girl panties on and deal with it." Enter that really uncomfortable silence and 2 awkward stares from the teenagers that work in the nursery. I finished checking Little G's sugars, signed her out and said goodbye to everyone. To say I was furious is an understatement and then I ran into the gal who oversees the nursery (who is also a teacher at the school there, so I know her pretty well). I told her what had just gone down and prepared her for a complaint about my harshness and she laughed, said that this particular mom finally ran into someone that would give as good as she got. She didn't expect any fallout from it, and she was right. I'm looking forward to church this weekend....I promise to take my Midol before I go. Maybe with a chaser of Prozac.

My wish is that every person out there that thinks it's okay to not use that censor reconsider how their comments will be taken by the other person...especially if that other person happens to be a mother. Apparently stupidity knows no bounds and I hit max capacity on it last Sunday.


Anonymous said...

Okay - this is the first post of yours that I have read, and I love you!

That was the most wonderful response! Yay you! If she has the nerve to say something so insensitive than you have every right to retort!

Unknown said...

YEA!!!!!! You so Rock MOM! I run into the same type of stupidity in regards to my son w/ special needs. Even from his school admins... Jesus Did not tolerate it and he is certainly on your side here - even if you did show your human side to that rude & selfish woman! Major Kudos To you - Paige

Tina said...

Good for you! You didn't say anything wrong in my opinion. You didn't wish her kids dead, you simply said (in a calm manner) that she is not as good a mother as you. Sounds like nothing but the truth to me.
Dumbest comment I ever got was a lady in the supermarket who told her daughter to "stay away" from me "so you don't get the sugar". I had been testing my blood at the time. People are ignorant and sometimes they need to be told that they are.

Meri said...

There were so many times that I didn't say anything, and my silence ate me alive. Now I speak up, and I don't worry about hurting their feelins, HECK, they don't care if they hurt mine!

Good for you for saying something. Sounds like this mom needed a good talking to anyway. ;)

Wendy said...

"Big girl panties"


I love it. LOVE. IT.

Enjoy church this weekend and every weekend that follows :)

Leighann of D-Mom Blog said...

Are you kidding me?

It's one thing to say it to you, but to say it in front of your child?

(Not that it would have been okay to say it to you in the first place.)

Cheryl said...

Love's so true too.

Amy said...

I love this! I have heard some hum-dingers in the five and a half months we have lived with diabetes, but this one ranks up there pretty high. AND I LOVE YOUR RESPONSE! You go, Momma!

This is the first I have read of your blog and have read some past posts. I see that you are in Dallas . . . Me too! Would love to hear more about you!!

Heather said...

I agree with Wendy! YOU ROCK GIRL!

Lora said...

I LOVE IT!!! This has totally been my favorite post today. I have a cheezy grin right now :)

Deanna said...

I absolutely LOVE the way you handled this situation! I may borrow that "big girl panties" line. :)